Pity is the only thing that drives self-doubt. Being hard on yourself is constructive when it comes to running your own business since you are your own boss, but the hardest part is remaining positive in the face of failure. Rejection sucks after a while, and you are going to have to deal with it every day. I have learned to be proactive instead of reactive when facing problems, and I have learned to value relationships, not money. I don’t always follow my own advice, but when I do, it usually works.
The fitness industry can be rough, shallow, and it is short lived for many. I didn’t even intend on getting in this industry initially. It was a summer job that turned into a passion. And this is where a lot of people mess up. You have to do what you love because if you do what you love, you will never work a day in your life. This is another thing that holds me together when everything around me fails. I love what I do, and as long as I have that, I will be alright. One of the most important things I have learned is never to use a job as a safety net. Let your job be what you love doing most. Find passion behind your work, because then it’s never work and money is never a priority; it becomes more about making an impact. Enlightening and making changes in peoples lives that otherwise wouldn’t have been able to happen. Money is attracted to positivity.
Being your own boss and having your own brand is hard. It’s harder than most people think. You are your own publicist; you are your sales team. You are never not working. Some days I wake up and I don’t want to face the fact that maybe only 1 out of 20 prospects turns into a client. But I do it.It’s hard to relish in your success when there is so much uncertainty ahead, but always control what you can control and whatever people may say or do, shouldn’t change who you are or how you react. You can have your meltdowns and your celebrations, but don’t bring everyone around you in it all the time. The less people see, the more they want to know.
Someone leaving your inner circle, or a client leaving your gym, isn’t the end of the world. Brush it off, move on, and realize you have a new vacancy for something bigger and better. Learn from your failures, enjoy your successes and find beauty in the struggle. Reaching your goals is no fun if you don’t have a story to tell.